“I’m not an only child, despite always introducing myself as one I do actually have a brother and sister from my dad’s first marriage. They’re about twenty years older than me, so I tend not to see them that way. But my brother didn’t invite me to his wedding, that was last September, not the one just gone, the one before. There was a lot of anger on my part at him; I wanted to hit him! He specifically put out invites for siblings but didn’t invite me.
He's been working in America and he was marrying an American woman. I wanted to speak to him, and he didn’t want to talk unless he wasn’t going to be attacked, and I just kept thinking ‘What am I going to do? I’m decade younger than you, and you’re afraid of being attacked by me?’ But he wanted to explain why he hadn’t given me an invite, he and his wife we’re focusing more on him getting an American citizenship than the wedding. So, they were literally going to drag two strangers off the street and do a ceremony there. But then, they thought ‘It’s a wedding, we should probably invite our parents.’ His wife is very close with her siblings, so they extended the invite to siblings, but that only got extended to my half-sister, not me. It was a wedding, not many weddings have happened in my family. The last wedding I went to was a few years ago, but we only went to the after party. Before that was when I was a Bridesmaid as a child. I want to go to a wedding! I was righteously angry, and just annoyed.
It didn’t help that the next time he was back over here, with his wife, was the following April. They were living in a house-share somewhere near me, and we had a meal. They were staying for a week. I only see them once, and he didn’t say anything to me; we hugged when we left but I was one the instigating the hug, he didn’t look like he was wanting it. But it eventually got better; we met up over New Year, his wife’s parents came down. He talked to me a lot more, we had the conversation that we should have had in April. We were talking about me staying over with them in New York, over the Summer, but I don’t think much is going to happen with that because of what’s going on in the world. It was more of me holding a grudge, which is why there’s still a little bit of anger. I’m hopeful, I just need to bury the hatchet and stop holding a grudge.”
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